A college effect on relationships
Is a long-distance relationship right for you?
Published: Thursday, November 8, 2012
Updated: Tuesday, November 6, 2012 21:11
Going away to college is a notorious cause of high school sweetheart breakups. Usually, it’s because you want to start fresh and to take full advantage of your newfound freedom. College is chalked full of new and interesting people to meet and form new friendships with. Being tied down to a lady or man that is far away may limit the kinds of interactions you have in your college environment. How are you going to go out and meet new people if you’re skyping with your boo on your laptop for hours?
Depending on how far away you live from your sweetie, a visit on the weekends may be a regular occurrence. However, time spent traveling could be spent bonding with new friends in college or concentrating on various obligations. Don’t let a boyfriend or girlfriend take time or effort away from your studies and the things you like to do. College is a time to set out on your path in life and to work hard to achieve your goals. If anyone is disturbing your chance at a better future, they’re not worth it.
Long distance relationships are tough on time, money, studies, friends, and, often, your emotions. Social media is a common way to check up on your love to see their face, status—and we all know you’re going to creep on their pictures from college. Seeing him or her in photos looking like they are having a fantastic time may spark feelings of jealousy or loneliness. It’s hard to keep a relationship going when distance is an issue. Sometimes, long distance relationships (LDRs) can bring down a relationship simply because it’s easy to forget how you feel about someone when you are separated for too long. Their new environment and your new environment may change you both, which may cause a real disconnect when you are reunited.
Movies portray a relenting, burning love between romantics that is almost always unrealistic. They show a “love” that outlasts the barriers of time, communication, and distance. If you feel as if your relationship is truly one you would like to keep and you plan on this person being in your long-term future, by all means stay with this person. If he or she helps you function and have helped you become a better person, this special person is probably someone you should keep around.
Letting go of people you love is always tough. We all hate goodbyes. Sometimes when faced with this dilemma you must choose between your head or your heart. Depending on your decision, you may end up changing your mind over time anyway. Often times, people take “breaks”, which may be another option depending on what you feel best fits your situation. Try to explore new avenues and give yourself a chance to feel free. If you have a LDR with someone that is worth waiting for, don’t lose a positive thing.